Relationships are very complex and are highly sensitive. This could be the relationship between parents and their children, between brothers and sisters, between friends and relatives and last but not the least relationship between husbands and wives. It is indeed a conflict that unlike other relationships, a relation between a husband and wife, if it has to be severed, has to be done only under the influence of the court and as per the written laws and rules of the land. Any process involving divorce is riddled with lot of pain, uncertainty and suffering.
Divorce is not just a seven-letter word that could be bought and sold from any shop across the road bend. It is about trampling on human ego, their feelings and sentiments and also mauling their self-respect and belief in themselves and human beings in general. Hence, any divorce is a very painful process to say the least and the trauma associated with it needs to be handled with care and caution.
First and foremost, the onus lies on both the men and women to consider all the pros and cons associated with any divorce. Even if there is a small glimmer of hope which could make the marriage work and rebuild the relationship, it should first be tried out. Only when things have reached a stage of no-return should divorce be considered. Once the man or woman has decided to end the marriage and seek divorce, they should be prepared to face the aftermath with courage and conviction.
It would not be a bad idea to seek the help and advice of a counselor once a person has gone through the divorce proceedings. Such counseling will help them to restart life once again and pick up the threads that have been left behind. It would also be worthwhile to take a break from regular work and be away from the place or city where the divorce has taken place. This is because staying in the same place might result in haunting memories of a relationship that started on a positive and right note. Such nostalgic trips down memory line could hurt the mind and heart even more.
There are other things that could also be tried out. You could perhaps go for a course on meditation and yoga to soothe the mind, brain and body. If you are lucky enough you could get back to your parents or brother and sisters and spend a few days with them. The love and compassion that you get from your parents and siblings can certainly be a balm to heal your emotional and mental wounds.
Being with your friends, reading books, doing something that is passionate or close to your heart are a few more things that could be tried out. In fine, the main objective of such exercises and events is to get over the pain associated with divorce. However, all this is bound to take time and the process of healing from the wounds suffered from divorce is an excruciatingly slow and difficult one.
